Do you sometimes say YES to doing things and then regret it later?
Do you often say NO to things that you wished you would have done?
Boundaries between ourselves and others are learned before we can even speak, from birth to age 5. Sometimes those life lessons weren’t learned in a safe way. As adults, we can then have issues in knowing when it’s appropriate to say both NO and YES.
This can be a large source of stress if we take on more than we can handle with a YES.
It can also be stressful if we feel isolated by saying NO too often.
The good news? Your interactions with the world are not set in stone! It is possible to gain insight and learn and understand our style of interaction.
Education helps us change how we react in our relationships. It shows how we can develop better boundaries in our relationships.
If you are interested in learning more about appropriate Boundaries, check out a book of the same name by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. You will gain insight into your relationships at work, at home, with friends, and even with your kids. In fact, having your kids read or listen to this might be worthwhile too!
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